Just babbling. Nothing important today

So I am here at work. Just killing time.

I have been reading a book about AIDS. I am amazed about what I didn't know. I worked in surgery for almost 20 years. I only knew that side of things. Now I am starting to learn about the polititcal side of things. Wow, What an eye opener.

I will give you a review on the book as soon as I am done with it. Oh and don't hold your breath I have 3 books going at the same time. (Thanks Kirst) Anyway, I must say it has been enlightening to say the least.

No condomn no sex!!!

Ok so some startling news, a new report just out. People are no longer wearing condomns when having sex. This goes for one night stand, f---buddies, and just our regular partners. Ok, I know it is hard to ask your every day partner to wear a condemn, but considering how long it does take for the AIDs virus to show up on a test, would you rather not be safe than sorry? ( I just found out you can get the results in 30 minutes or less)

We all know it only takes once to get pregnant if your not trying, and if your trying sometimes it takes more than once. But think about it. You could be infected and not know it. You could be spreading the virus to a loved one.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/are-people-seriously-not-using-condoms-anymore-come-on-195278/

So with that said, let touch a little bit about the over talked about teen pregnancy pact. Everyone wants to blame someone.

Ok, your not going to like this but, blame the girls who did this. They knew what they were doing. They knew they would cause problems, they didn't care. They wanted a baby. So rather than point fingers now, make them suck it up. Make them the responsible members of society and stop giving them hand outs. They need to get jobs to support the child. " oh they are only children themselves how can you say this???"

Let me tell you. There are millions of teen mothers out there every day, who have dropped out of school, raising families and are productive members of society. When they got pregnant we did not point fingers at the school, the family or the community. We just said oh well, and turned our backs and went on with life.

Most of these girls ended up on the streets. Hello???? Just because there are 17 in this community? yes this is a problem, but a problem that these teen mothers need to solve.
They can work and go to school.

Lets look at people like Whoopie Goldberg. Teen parent. worked, went to school and is a contributing member of society. How many others are there out there like her? Tons.

I know I must sound cold. I know people worry about the babies. That is understandable. But "society" as a whole has made it too easy for teens who have babies. They point at the parents, belittle the parents and make the parents feel responsible.

Let me tell you. My daughter was out of control as a teen. She would sneek out at night. Every night I would get up several times just to check on her. Every time she was gone, I would call the police and report her as a run away. I tried hard to keep the lines of communication open. I tried counseling. I tried staying at home and being with her constantly. I even went before the judge and ask the she be placed in lock up because I knew she would commit a crime. They told me no.

No one would help me. So I kept reporting her everytime she would leave the house with out my premission. She would be gone for days. I never knew where she was. And believe it or not, there were parents in the community that help hide her from me. (Which is against the law)

Finally she ended up pregnant. Then it was my fault. Go figure. So don't blame the parents. You don't really know what they have had to put up with. You have not walked in their shoes.
Just make sure the teens become good parents. Pray for their children that they will have better choice than what these 17 stupid teens made

Happy Hour

Lets talk about happy hour.

What is happy hour really for? It is supposed to relax us after work. For some this is true. We can relax and enjoy a nice cold one. But then we have to worry how much of a good thing we have. Driving laws make things very tough for a good reason.

But what I want to talk about is doing happy hour with co-workers. I do a happy hour with a really great friend. Our though processes are very close, which to some people can be scary. We agree on a lot of things. Men, sex, beer, toys, and life in general.

But lets talk about the happy hour that the office puts on to "create a more positive team atmosphere"

I came across an article from MSNBC.com. It was a survey that shows 20% go for after work drinks and lists the fall out.

FALL OUT???? yes fall out. Come on.. One drink leads to another. Most workers attend a happy hour to "bond" with a colleague. Bond???? ok.. I would not want to bond with the people I work with. Most of the people I work with are superficial snobs. They are nice to your face and when your not around you are not worth the dirt they walk on.

15% go to hear the latest gossip, ok this I believe. I have been known to do this. The more drinks you have the more you hear. It is a known fact.

13% go because they feel obligated. Never. Never in a million years would I feel obligated to go. Now I would feel obligated to drink beer however. So if you want me there you would have to approach it like this. Melina, I hear there is this beer over at the pub that has been asking about you. You need to go check it out. Boom. I am there.

Then after a few drinks have been around the crew, 16% reported that they bad mouthed a co-worker.... NO, not that,, no one has ever done anything like that. Not even if they had never ever had a drink. Get real, how many people in this world have bad mouthed a co-worker when they are sober????

10% shared a secret about a co-worker. Ok, if you have a secret, you should not be sharing it with ANYONE. It does not matter who it is. If you don't want anyone to know, don't tell. If you need to tell. Find a priest.

8% kissed a colleague.. oh god, can we say sexual harrassment???? hello??? and 8% said they drank too much and acted unprofessionally. Ok if you kissed a co-worker, is that not unprofessional????? I am confused here. If it happened in a bar is it sexual harrassment? If I was drunk and gave a blow job to my co-worker would he call it sexual harrassment and insist that he did not want it and I forced it on him??? OH wait the only guy in our department is gay so Yes I guess he would. Shit.

5% said they had a secret about the company and 4% confessed to singing Karaoke? It is the end of the world. We are now singing and telling the secrets of the company.

This was interesting. 21% said happy hours were good for networking and 85% said attending did not help them advance in the company. Ok networking, "if you dont copy this contracts for me I will tell everyone what you said about Ned". And as far as advancing???? After you fondled Jane at the bar the other night, I can not advance to you sales and marketing in fear of what you will do to our clients. Sorry.

So I guess what they are saying is " Don't do happy hour with co-workers unless you want to be in debted to them the rest of your career."

Please read

http://arstechnica.com/news.ars/post/20080624-be-quiet-the-surveillance-cameras-might-hear-you.html

This is scary stuff, Check this out

Our other lives.

Ok so I went a little off yesterday. I must appologize for my rant. No on second thought I don't appologize. I meant every word of it. I just did not mean to go in that direction when I started the blog.

So today, It is a beautiful day out. The sun is shining and we are going to chat about deceit. Poor Anne Hathaway, her boy friend had a secret life that she new nothing about.

But wait, don't we all to a certain extent? Not all of us do things that are illegal. (depending on what state you live in)

My life at work is completely different then the one at home. When I was in school, my life there was completely different then at home or work.

So every one leads a different life. Now what about those who cheat on there spouses??? Oh, is this any different? What life do they lead? What do they tell there spouse? What kind of life to they lead their lover to believe they have? Are they honest and tell their lover that they are married? Or are they some kind of business man that is out of town a lot?

I have been told the leading cause of divorice is marriage,,, no shit!. Come on get real. Is the real leading cause of divorice boredom? I think it is.

I think people get bored with their life and they tend to wander. They make up a life to put excitement back into their mundane lives. If I am wrong correct me.

So we create a second life. We become the person we always wanted to be. We tend to tell little white lies to make our life more interesting, or in the case of my husband. He feels the need to "one up the person telling the story".

So if your out there, if you have a dual life, tell me about it. Its not like I am going to know who you are. Its not like I will ever get to meet you. I am just interested.

My dual life??? LOL.. I am a married woman. Yet I am the office slut.
Am I happy? Not as a married woman, Do I cheat. No I don't. I became the office slut before I got married. I liked that life better believe it or not

Ok so there is this place you can go and pay $100 to have someone massage your boobs. No kidding. Why? They say your boobs need a "lift" and they use a firming lotion when they massage them.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/beauty/would-you-pay-100-for-a-breast-massage-...

Ok I am not paying anyone to massage my boobs. I get get that done for free. If I need a lift I will get a more permament one from my local plastic surgeon. Yes it will be more than $100 but it will last alot longer. I can't believe women would pay for that.

Another thing, how can women get a boob massage and not get turned on??? How can they just lie there and not feel the aching desire to come on to the person giving the massage? Even if it is a woman giving the massage. Damn,, think about it... I get wet thinking about it. Come on, your only human. You can't tell me your not getting wet or hard.

That is another thing I hate about women. They lie. They lie about sex. I don't care how much you believe them or how honest they look. They enjoy sex as much as men do. They need it as much as men do. And when women get together what do you think they talk about???? Sex.
I recently went to happy hour with the girls from the office. I felt bad (haha) for the waiter that had our table. He was a cute thing. He was maybe 28. We??? lol I think we were 28 up to 50. There were only 6 of us but we kept him very busy and flirted with him. We made the poor kid blush. He had a great time, and made great tips from us. When we got up to leave he made sure to tell us he had fun and to come back anytime. I think he learned alot from us that night.

Also a pet peeve of mine is the young girls who use sex as a game. Stop it. It is not a reward only to be given out when your boyfriend/husband does good. Also stop making it work, this is an enjoyable activity. There is nothing more satisfing than the look on a happy mans face. He is totally relaxed and in his own zone. Let him have that happy place for a change. Don't take that away from him.

So to the young girls who like to play the game of " oh I don't like sex" yes you do. You do and you know you do. Deal with it, Grow up and get on with your life. Deep inside we are all sluts and whores. Live with it. Get it out in the open. But for gods sake, Use a comdom.

June 23, 2008

Well this is my first entry here. I have another blog but decided to create a second one for various reasons. I am not sure what is completely exceptable here so I will go and check out some of the other blogs and see what is out there.

I guess a little about me. I am woman, I am not a feminist. I am an individualist. There are certain things I am capable of and face it, there are certain things that I just can not do. May be because I am not strong enough, or because I just don't see why it needs to be done.

I have children. They are older. I have grandchildren. I love all of them. They are my life. They come first in my life.

Am I married? yes. enough said.

I have dogs and cats.

I have a car. I have a job. I have siblings. I rent my house.

So enough about that.

I came here for a little more freedom from my last blog place. It was causing some strife in my life.

I will probably only blog on the week days here.

I hope you will enjoy my blog and make comments here when you feel the need. I always enjoy feedback whether good or bad. Just make sure it is not hateful. Thank you